Mark Gilroy ON: How Positivity Can Backfire & Make You Less Successful

What happens when positivity doesn’t serve you or those around you? In this episode of the Resilience Development Podcast, we explore:

✅ How well-meaning positivity can come across as dismissive and de-validate emotion

✅ The contradiction of positivity against a backdrop of mental health and stigma

✅ The correlation between positivity and attentional bias and its impact on the way we look at life

✅ Why toxic positivity is probably the wrong word

✅ The power of connection and meeting people where they are at

✅ The difference in how same-gender relationships work

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Chapters

• 0:00 Intro
• 0:34 A psychology geek
• 2:50 Mark's background
• 6:00 Optimism & positivity
• 6:40 Positive thinking
• 8:50 Defining optimism - 3Ps
• 12:08 Dismissing & de-validation
• 13:30 Mental health & stigma
• 14:11 Meeting people where they are at
• 16:07 High & low mood
• 21:38 Attentional bias
• 25:00 WOOP
• 26:00 Clarity, confidence and commitment
• 27:32 Toxic positivity creeping in
• 31:35 A professional example: Leadership
• 36:00 A personal example: Kids
• 41:00 Meeting in the moment
• 47:17 Toxic positivity in relationships
• 50:50 Re-branding toxic positivity
• 54:30 Advice to younger self
• 59:13 Outro